Tips for Talking to Family and Friends About Your Girlfriend's Unexpected Pregnancy

An unexpected pregnancy can leave you wondering who to tell and when. You may want advice from someone you trust, but you also want to respect your girlfriend's privacy. 

Before sharing the news with family or friends, talk with her first. A simple conversation about who you're both comfortable telling can prevent misunderstandings and help you present a united front. 

At Positive Options, we offer no-cost consultations where couples can ask questions, learn about their options, and talk through next steps together. 

Remember That This Is Her News Too

An unexpected pregnancy affects both of you, but it's even more personal for her. Before posting online or telling friends or family, make sure she's comfortable with who knows and what level of details (what outcome you are planning on, etc).

Should You Tell Your Parents?

You don't have to keep the pregnancy a secret from your parents. In fact, you may need their advice and support. Just let your girlfriend know you're planning to tell them, so she isn't caught off guard if someone mentions it later. A two-minute conversation now can prevent a much harder one later. 

What About Your Friends?

It's natural to want someone to talk to, especially if you have such important news. Before sharing the news, ask yourself why you're telling them.

Are you looking for advice, or are you simply trying to get the news off your chest? Choose people whom you’ve trusted with important information in the past. Tell your girlfriend before you share the news with anyone.

Next Steps

Once you've talked with the people you trust, do your best, along with your girlfriend, to take time to learn more about her pregnancy.

A positive pregnancy test doesn't answer important questions like how far along the pregnancy is or whether the pregnancy is still progressing. 

We offer free ultrasounds that provide these crucial details (and more). You are not alone, and we are here to help you feel supported and get connected to local resources. Make your appointment today!