What Can I Do if My Partner Wants Me to Abort, But I Want to Keep the Baby?

No one has the legal right to force or pressure you into having an abortion. If your partner wants you to choose abortion and you aren't sure it's what you want, permit yourself to set healthy boundaries.Giving yourself space to consider your own values and priorities can help you make a confident decision for your future.

If you and your partner see the pregnancy differently, we offer a safe space where you can feel heard and supported as you explore your options in a compassionate environment through our free options consultations.

Evaluate the Context of His Response

If you told him the news and his first response was to recommend abortion, but that was the only conversation that you’ve had with him, or if the news of the pregnancy is

still fresh, take a step back and consider a few questions:

• Is he willing to talk about other options besides abortion?

• Has he had time to process the pregnancy and his emotions?

• If he doesn't change his mind, what do you want to do?

Sometimes a partner's first reaction is driven by surprise or adrenaline. After having time to think, he may be more open to discussing parenting, adoption, or the support available to both of you.

If he refuses to listen, makes threats, or tries to control your decision, take those behaviors seriously and take precautions such as meeting in a public place for any future conversations.

You can also contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline if you feel unsafe and want to make an exit plan. Dial 911 if you are in immediate danger and need help from law enforcement.

Find Support at Positive Options

If your partner wants you to have an abortion and you don't, you don't have to let someone else's preferences determine your decision. 

Even if he is not offering support, this does not mean that you are alone or without resources. 

We offer free pregnancy services, including options consultations, limited ultrasounds, parenting classes, and even a pregnancy mentor to walk with you during this time in your life.

It’s your choice and your future. We are here to help you along the way. Contact us today!